Physical Touch

Updated: Mar 23


Very often, we see parents squatting down or seated on the ground, to play with or talk to young toddlers. However, as the child grows older, we forget about the importance of keeping “eye-level”. We then tend to talk to them literally “top-down”, due to difference in height. Definitely, it is not realistic for one to maintain the "eye-level" for every single conversation. Yet, this is very important when you are trying to hold a serious conversation, or trying to express your love for your child.


One common misconception is that the expression of physical touch to your child is only either hugging or kissing the cheeks. In fact, there are many other "Physical Touch" actions, such as giving a high-five clap, holding hands, piggy-back carry or stroking of the head.

At this point, I need to also highlight the following: Depending on the social and cultural context, where certain actions might be deemed as inappropriate.

Some other opportunity where you can include physical touch can be during story telling time, where you can seat your child on your lap. At bedtime, you may also cuddle your child with the blankets while putting him/her to sleep. For a child who has physical touch as his/her primary choice of love language, it is always important to do the following: After disciplining him/her, do remember to follow up with a hug or hold of the child. This will, again convey the unconditional love, even after the child may have done something wrong.

A child whose Love Language is physical touch, may also enjoy receiving items such as blankets, soft toys, or pillow. Such items have the “physical touch” property, and may be able to help parents who have to be away for a prolonged period of time.


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